- Pause: Physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually—just stop. Often our anger, thoughts and emotions can be a runaway train. Sometimes we need to pause before any wise action can arise.
- Breathe: Once you have stopped, take a deep cleansing breath. Fully feel every aspect of the breath, from the initial inhale through to the very end of the exhale.
- Connect To Your Body: Feel your feet on the ground. Relax your shoulders away from your ears, and unclench your jaw.
- Find Your Compassion: Take a moment to wish yourself peace and ease, as well as those in front of you and around you. We don’t often know the pain of others, and can easily take circumstances and peoples’ actions very personally. See if you can drop the stories and instead feel heart centered, good wishes for yourself and others. Remember that everyone wants to be happy, just like you do.
- Take Wise Action: From a place of still, deep compassion, determine the kindest action available to you. It might be to walk away or lean in. It might be to speak your truth or to listen with your whole heart. You will know.
Being kind feels like the easiest thing ever until someone cuts you off on the highway or grabs your Starbucks mobile order. When compassion is out of reach, here is how you can find it again.
Acting out of anger can be the path of least resistance, and being kind can feel hard. But if we set an intention to live our days as a kindness practice, many opportunities will present themselves. It might be the only practice we need.